How to play

  1. Record with one or two friends so you can argue about the scores on camera.
  2. A behavior appears above your head instead of a question.
  3. Call it red or green, then rate it 1 to 10 where 10 is the reddest flag.
  4. Post the ones you disagreed about most and let the comments settle it.

Friendship red flags

  • Cancels every plan last minute.
  • Never asks how you are.
  • Only texts when they need something.
  • Repeats what you told them privately.
  • Makes every story about them.
  • Goes quiet when you win.
  • Borrows and never returns.
  • Gets weird when you make new friends.
  • Says just joking after every dig.
  • Forgets everything you tell them.
  • Keeps score of every favor.
  • Only shows up when it is convenient.

Friendship green flags

  • Remembers the small stuff.
  • Says sorry and means it.
  • Hypes you up in public.
  • Tells you the truth kindly.
  • Shows up early to help.
  • Answers when it matters.
  • Celebrates your good news first.
  • Gives your other friends a chance.
  • Keeps your secrets, always.
  • Checks in after a hard week.
  • Makes room for your quiet days.
  • Says what they mean.

Dating red flags

  • Never texts first.
  • Cannot make a single decision.
  • Talks over everyone at dinner.
  • Rude to the waiter.
  • Calls your hobby boring.
  • Always late, never sorry.
  • Keeps the plans vague on purpose.
  • Ignores you around their friends.
  • Turns every talk into a debate.
  • Forgets what you told them last week.
  • Never says one nice thing about anyone.
  • Disappears for days, returns like nothing.

Dating green flags

  • Asks questions and listens.
  • Remembers your usual order.
  • Says what they want clearly.
  • Kind to their family.
  • Makes plans and keeps them.
  • Proud to introduce you.
  • Handles a bad day calmly.
  • Respects a no the first time.
  • Learns the names of your friends.
  • Texts good morning for no reason.
  • Cheers for your goals out loud.
  • Says thank you for small things.

Filming tips

  • Say the number out loud as well as red or green. The score is what makes this format rewatchable.
  • Keep it about behaviors, never about a specific person. A flag clip that names someone reads as a callout, and callouts age badly.

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